Forward has a price

“What are you here for?”

“The flirting.”

It must be a very difficult thing to believe, because I have yet had a man believe that if I am in the chat room of a flirting website, that I am there just to flirt and not to be picked up.

And, do men really believe that if they offer me all kinds of sexual favors I will be more tempted to meet them for stranger sex, even though they completely ignored and will continue to ignore everything I say in their quest to get me, someone they don’t even know, into bed?

How does that work anyway?  Obviously, I’m in a chat room with a bunch of people I don’t know, who have never seen me and don’t know what I look like.  Neither do I know the least bit of information about them.  Yet as soon as I show up there to enjoy some lighthearted banter for the heck of it, I start getting tons of private messages, making it impossible to follow the conversation in the main room.  I know I shouldn’t, but I usually feel compelled to answer.  Yet, I am tiring of the fact that every conversation starts with a man asking me how he can please me and how much he enjoys sex.

I figure if the man is in a flirting chat room, he’s probably there for sex.  I can work that little equation out for myself.  What always baffles me is how many of them will immediately tell me how much wonderful oral sex they can give me that will send me to heights heretofore unkown.  I want to know how they know that without even knowing who I am?  Does it not occur to these men that they are wholly transparent by telling me what they “know” I will enjoy, even though they don’t know me and they’ve never had sex with me.

A successful sexual relationship is a learning experience.  One can never assume that one knows the sexual response of another, until one actually has sex with that person and then, as in the case of my darling and much loved Sam, sometimes even knowing does not translate into successfully doing.

Making assumptions that just because most women have a predictable response to a particular stimulus, does not mean that every woman is going to respond likewise…and I’m not just talking about the furor over getting a total stranger to share her deepest sexual desires with a man in a chatroom.

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